The Rewards of Confrontation & it takes two to tango.

do not reject the Lord’s discipline…‘ Proverbs 3:11 NCV

The Bible says, ‘Do not reject the Lord’s discipline, and don’t get angry when He corrects you. The Lord corrects those He loves, just as parents correct the child they delight in‘ (Proverbs 3:11-12 NCV).

Because God loves you, when He sees things in your life that could potentially damage you and other people, He deals with them.

Paul writes, ‘Therefore consider the goodness and severity of God…‘ (Romans 11:22 NKJV).

God will deal with you gently, but if you don’t listen He may have to deal with you severely. That’s because He has too much invested in you to let you fail.

Not only does God confront us, He expects us to confront one another when we’re in the wrong.

Paul stood up to Peter, his fellow leader, in front of Jewish and Gentile believers because the issue was important to their mission’s success (Gal 2:14).

Healthy confrontation results in six things:

(1) Clarification. You get a better understanding of the person and what happened.

(2) Change. Hopefully improvement will come from it – and the improvement may be in you!

(3) An improved relationship. Handled correctly, confrontation will deepen your relationship with the other person.

(4) Purity. As word gets out, the organisation will be purified and sobered.

(5) Respect. People will appreciate and respect your leadership even more.

(6) Security. They’ll feel safe knowing that you’re strong enough to take a stand when it counts. People want a leader who says, ‘When there’s a problem I’ll deal with it directly, promptly and respectfully. I’ll help correct the situation and get us back on track.’

Soul Food: Judges 16:1-19:15; Matt 13:1-9; Ps 45; Pro 13:13-16

Written by Bob & Debby Gass

Monday, 25 May 2015

For what its worth words from the Editor:


by the Editor of 4cm:

ALWAYS KEEP IN MIND it takes two to tango.

The results of confronting wrong depends one two parties not one.

How the confront-er carries out the confrontation does have influence.

However does not finally determine the outcomes!

The confronted, will finally shape the outcomes by their responses.

We need to remember the confrontation is because of things being done wrong. The purpose of the confrontation is not to negotiate what wrong and right is; the purpose of the confrontation is to bring a cessation of wrong behaviour from the perpetrator.

The  perpetrator may actually choose to stand their ground and claim wrong is right, and at that point one is wasting their breath attempting to make reason with the person; just bow out with a firm but non abusive summary of your position and remove yourself from the contact.

You will mostly find and successive attempts to repair the breach will only widen the cassim between the parties as basically we have two worlds of opinion which will never run parallel in the same world.

In a perfect world the pieces of the puzzle would be put together however we just do not live yet in a perfect world nor are there any perfect people you and I included.

Romans 12:18 English Standard Version (ESV)

18 If possible, so far as it depends on you, live peaceably with all.

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