When one becomes chronically ill there are many emotional and behavioral changes that have to be made in order to properly cope with dealing with the symptoms, limitations, and loss associated with becoming ill. Today we are going to talk about the loss of the former self and how to continue to live life fully despite your numerous daily challenges when chronically ill.
Yes! I know it sounds ridiculous but once we let go of the anger and resentment of being struck down with the madness of being chronically ill there are many life lessons that can be taught through the diagnoses and challenges of chronic illness. We can have a grateful heart for these lessons!
This does not mean that you like your chronic illness or that you do not have moments of frustration and sadness from the loss of your former self. It is more of a acceptance and renewal process and it takes time. Everyone deals with loss differently and it is a very personal journey so it is important not to judge others mourning and acceptance process. Some people mourn and are angry for YEARS after becoming chronically ill and others let go of the anger and loss in months.
I want to stress it is a very unique journey for each person and to tell someone
It is important that we choose compassion and understand for all of our chronic illness brothers and sisters as this will be WAY more powerful than your own personal need to be right. Their journey is theirs and theirs alone and you can not change their path by pointing out what they are doing wrong but you can by being a good example to them and laying a path if they choose to take it.
When you do come out of the other side of this sadness and loss you will feel a new sense of self empowerment and can go out into the world and create a new modified version of you!
Some even become more themselves than they have ever been because chronic illness slows you down and lets you develop some of your natural gifts and talents. Many people that become chronically ill become more artistic, compassionate, spiritual, develop healing gifts, and find their passions!
When chronic illness slows us down we begin to remember the passions and natural gifts that can bring us true and authentic happiness. These gifts are what can bring you inner peace, acceptance, and empowerment. Stepping into who you were meant to be before society told you that the material world was your ticket to happiness can be life changing and a reason to be grateful for chronic illness slowing you down.
Although everyone’s grieving, mourning, and acceptance process is going to be unique it is important not to get stuck in this part of your journey for too long. This will throw you into victim mode and once you get in victim mode you give up any power to make positive changes in your life.
To some degree, every one of us has been a victim.We were either neglected by our parents, picked on at school or ripped off in a business deal later in life. When we are healthy, we can learn from those experiences, forgive and move on. But when we’re not, we tend to re-victimize ourselves over and over.
What I mean when I say re-victimize ourselves is we play the “recording” of the event again and again in our minds because it actually gives us some unhealthy form of comfort during our struggles.
You might think that it is okay to play the role of the victim as long as you are not hurting yourself or others but the truth is it is one of the most damaging things you can do to yourself and all those you love around you. When you give in and give up your power to adapt/change to your new circumstances you begin to exist and stop living. Humans have an amazing ability to adapt to uncontrollable and unpleasant circumstances once they give up the need to control every aspect of their life.
Chronic illness will force you to give up some control and this can actually be a life lesson that can catapult you and your purpose to a level you might have never experienced without the challenges of chronic illness.
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13 April 2015 | by Jen Reynolds | Original Source: fibro.tv/newsblogs "Mourning The Loss of The Former Self When Chronically ill"