Developing Character In Children

Note: The following is a continuation of the “Successful Home & Marriage” series by Jimmy Swaggart.


Children need to be taught to work. There are many problems facing our land and world today, and one of the basic causes of this is that a generation of children has been raised to believe that work is “undignified.” When I was a boy, work was taught as an ethic. It was a virtue. It was taught as the basic component of character development.

My mother and father taught me to work, and I’m grateful they did. As the depression gave way to opportunity, Americans had a real zeal for work. There was a vibrant urgency in America that helped immeasurably when we entered World War II. It would be a disaster to see another depression, but, at least in those days, whenever anyone was offered any work, he accepted it eagerly.

Today, children are no longer being taught to work. In numerous ways they are even being taught and encouraged not to work—by our government and other social forces. More often than not, labor organizations discourage hard work. It is a tragedy that many of the most influential elements in our society hinder the work ethic and encourage “feather-bedding” and more-and-more pay for less and- less work. Many labor groups want everything reduced to the lowest possible level of activity, and the result is a situation where an energetic individual is prevented from producing what he could.

Another tragic element in our society is government’s determination to pay individuals for not working, while the more ambitious element is penalized for working. For many, not working pays better than working pays. This destroys the fabric, the fiber, and the soul of a nation. Incredibly, it is being imposed by our own government.

Only people who are truly incapable of helping themselves should receive help. Able people ought to work, and society should intervene only to provide constructive work when it isn’t otherwise available. Today we reward laziness and slothfulness.


It is common knowledge that many refuse to accept such work as washing dishes, pumping gas, or other menial jobs. In truth, it doesn’t matter how menial the task. If it’s honest labour, it’s worthy of respect. Everyone should work. Even the person without real financial needs should work because filling your days with hobbies, television, or similar non-productive time-fillers is spiritually corrosive.

Laziness will destroy a person’s character. Anyone who is able to work and chooses not to work is a parasite. He lacks the fundamentals of good character and doesn’t understand the first principles of God’s kingdom.

Moms and dads should teach their children the work ethic at an early age.

Train up a child in the way he should go: and when he is old, he will not depart from it. Proverbs 22:6

Children should be provided jobs and should then be compensated for the work they do. This is the foundation of a later understanding of what money is, where it comes from, and the value of it. My father never gave me an allowance. He gave me work to do, and I was then rewarded for that work. By the time I was 8 years old, I had started doing things to earn a little money. I would dig potatoes, chop wood, pick tomatoes, pick cotton, and pick all kinds of vegetables. My mother and daddy taught me the work ethic early, and I soon learned that money was something that was earned and not handed out. Being accused of laziness was the worst kind of insult in our house. I had a constant dread of anybody thinking I was lazy. My mother and dad instilled this in me.

Learning how to work when I was young has enabled me to work hard as an adult. Being involved in a ministry that circles the globe is a time-consuming task. I was taught responsibility and respect for work when I was a child, and it remains deeply ingrained in me today. I look back now with thankfulness as I can see how this has contributed to what success we have had. There are all kinds of little jobs that can be performed by children, such as mowing lawns and having responsibility for many household maintenance chores. Little girls should be taught to babysit. Boys can wash cars, work after school at a grocery store, deliver papers, or take responsibility for any of the other myriad jobs available to those who want to earn spending money.


Parents should also teach their children to spend wisely because they will need this ability as they grow through life. Lamentably, the majority of American adults have no concept of intelligent purchasing, and this is demonstrated in the fact that every credit crunch finds a large percentage of American families on the brink of bankruptcy.

Learning how to shop intelligently should be a part of every child’s training. In addition, children should be taught how to save. While this may sound old-fashioned, it is completely scriptural. Proverbs 6:6-8 says: “Go to the ant, thou sluggard: consider her ways, and be wise: Which having no guide, overseer, or ruler, Provideth her meat in the summer, and gathereth her food in the harvest.

The Lord is telling us that there are times when we should save for the future. I worked hard, doing all the jobs I previously mentioned. Many were not pleasant, such as picking cotton or curing cow hides. I was often dirty and, afterward, my back ached, but with the monies earned from these tasks, I opened a bank account. My first account was opened with something like $8, and it gave me a wonderful feeling of accomplishment and responsibility. It was one of the greatest experiences of my life and one of the finest lessons I ever learned.

Children should be taught thrift. They need not be encouraged to be misers or stingy, but they should be encouraged to save, and the value of thrift should be ingrained into them at an early age.


Children should also be taught the words of the Lord Jesus Christ: “Give, and it shall be given unto you; good measure, pressed down, and shaken together, and running over (Lk. 6:38).

Children should be taught how to save. While this may sound old-fashioned, it is completely scriptural.

I was taught to pay my tithes at the age of 8. My parents instructed me that out of every dollar earned, a dime belongs to God. This was instilled in me from the very beginning of my life. They showed me where this could be found in the Word of God. I believed it, and I have practiced tithing from that moment on—and it has been one of the greatest lessons ever learned.

Children should not only be taught tithing, but the giving of offerings in addition. My parents taught me to be generous with God. They taught me kindness and generosity.

Children should be taught to give money. I don’t remember a Sunday as a child that I didn’t put my tithe in the Sunday offering plate. As I did so, I always felt happy because I knew it was the right thing to do within God’s sight.

Sometimes my grandfather would give me a dollar, or I would earn one. I was taught that I owed God a dime of that dollar. My mother and daddy practiced this before me as an example, and I think this was responsible for convincing me of the propriety of doing so.


In addition to being taught how to handle money, children should be taught courtesy and manners. Manners and morals are closely aligned, and no person can be what he should be without courtesy.

Parents should teach their children to say “yes, sir” and “no, ma’am” to adults and supervisors. You don’t hear much of this today. There is a considerable lack of respect within our society. It goes back to a lack of authority in the home, which then radiates throughout society. Children should be taught courtesy and to say a simple “thank you” or “no, thank you.”

Children should also be taught to forgive and to ask for forgiveness. The simple act of saying, ‘I am sorry,’ involves some of the most difficult words in the English language.

Another principle that needs to be reestablished is that of living peacefully with others. Fighting should not be allowed. Respect should be taught for another’s possessions, and one should not take what isn’t his own. Children should be encouraged to share.

Children should also be taught to forgive and to ask for forgiveness. The simple act of saying, “I am sorry,” involves some of the most difficult words in the English language. The only phrase harder to say is, “I was wrong.” Teach both of these phrases to your children early in life, and they will be much better persons for it.


God’s commandment to honor mother and father should be taught to children.

This is the fifth commandment and is the first to deal with man’s relationship to man. It is the only one that carries with it a special promise. The first four commandments refer to man’s relationship with God, and the last six sum up all of man’s duties toward mankind.

The first of these relationships is, “Honor thy father and thy mother.” The promise— for compliance with this commandment— is that one will live “long upon the land which the Lord thy God giveth thee.

The implication in this seems to be that if one properly deals with his parents in honor, other duties will likely be observed also, resulting in a healthy and lengthy life.

Even though this basic command was given in the Old Testament, all commands regarding man’s relationship to man continue to be valid. There is no evidence that these commands, concerning man’s relationship to man, have been done away with by Christ.

The fifth commandment, “Honour thy father and thy mother,” is recorded in the New Testament, and it is also elaborated upon there, with its applications explained. In Matthew 15:3-9, Jesus preached a brief sermon on this text. He repeated and expounded upon this thought of honoring father and mother.



In every area of life, parents are to set high standards. Agreeing with Joshua, we are to declare that, “As for me and my house, we will serve the Lord” (Josh. 24:15). The home is the place of worship and training. This is where character is built and lives developed. Parents must set the example. The Word of God must be read and explained, and prayer must be engaged in.

Family worship and training of children is an urgent need in every Christian home. You should train up a child in the way he should go. If done properly and scripturally, with love, he will not depart from the godly way. 

(This message was derived from the book by Jimmy Swaggart, “NOVEMBER 2017 THE EVANGELIST”.)

Scriptures from: (The Expositor’s Study Bible)[KJV/ESB]. iPad & iPhone & Hard Copy: by Jimmy Swaggart. 

The Diabolical Assault on our Children

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Here is a truth you can bank on: Satan absolutely hates children and is doing all he can to destroy them. He hates all of mankind of course, but he knows that if he can get to us while still young – or better yet, while still in the womb – he can be much more successful in his war against every good thing God has made.

Thus abortion is an obvious specialty of his. As are all the nefarious sexual attacks on our children. Thus he fully fuels the porn industry, turning men into sex addicts, many of whom will go on to sexually assault women, and sometimes even children.

Child abuse is about as far away as you can get from the will of God. Jesus offered very strong warnings for those who would harm children, and today we live in a society that routinely and proudly harms children. Despicable sex ed programs targeting even toddlers is also part of this demonic war on children.

So too is the radical homosexual agenda, and now the raging transgender agenda. As always, the activists know who to target: our vulnerable and innocent children. To get everyone fully into their diabolical agenda, they know that attacking our children is the best way to go about this.

And don’t just take my word on these matters. Many from the other side have admitted to all this. In my book The Challenge of Homosexuality I quote a number of these folks. Let me offer just two paragraphs from that book:

One quite well known homosexual blog site openly admits to just how intent the activists are in targeting young children in our schools. He says in an article entitled, “Can We Please Just Start Admitting That We Do Actually Want To Indoctrinate Kids?”: “‘NOOO! We’re not gonna make kids learn about homosexuality, we swear! It’s not like we’re trying to recruit your children or anything.’ But let’s face it – that’s a lie. We want educators to teach future generations of children to accept queer sexuality. In fact, our very future depends on it.”

He continues, (and pardon his crude language): “I for one certainly want tons of school children to learn that it’s OK to be gay, that people of the same sex should be allowed to legally marry each other, and that anyone can kiss a person of the same sex without feeling like a freak. And I would very much like for many of these young boys to grow up and start f**king men. I want lots of young ladies to develop into young women who voraciously munch box. I want this just as badly as many parents want their own kids to grow up and rub urinary tracts together to trade proteins and forcefully excrete a baby. I and a lot of other people want to indoctrinate, recruit, teach, and expose children to queer sexuality AND THERE’S NOTHING WRONG WITH THAT.”

Consider also the words of American feminist and lesbian Tammy Bruce who penned an important volume back in 2003 called The Death of Right and Wrong. In it she said this:

The radicals in control of the gay establishment want children in their world of moral decay, lack of self-restraint, and moral relativism. Why? How better to truly belong to the majority (when you’re really on the fringe) than by taking possession of the next generation? By targeting children, you can start indoctrinating the next generation with the false construct that gay people deserve special treatment and special laws. How else can the gay establishment actually get society to believe, borrowing from George Orwell, that gay people are indeed more equal than others? Of course, the only way to get that idea accepted is to condition people into accepting nihilism that forbids morality and judgment.

My review of this important book can be found here:

trans 41And as mentioned, right now the gender benders are especially doing Satan’s dark bidding. They are deliberately, actively and defiantly going after our children, and they make no apologies for it. Indeed, they are loud and proud about it and openly celebrate it.

Consider the latest outrage as found in today’s press. The headline is frightening enough: “Jess Walton’s book Introducing Teddy teaches kids about transgender issues”. The article begins:

She’s the world’s first transgender teddy bear and she’s about to achieve worldwide domination. If only life was as beautifully simple and unprejudiced as a children’s book. Thomas-now-Tilly the teddy’s journey began five years ago when Jess Walton’s father came out to her as transgender in a parked car in Fairfield. Three years later, after having a child of her own, the ex-teacher was searching desperately for kids books which showed a positive message about gender diversity but could find nothing. So she wrote her own: a Teddy called Thomas knows in his heart he’s a girl who wants to be called Tilly, and her friends accept her that way. Self-published last year as a “passion project”, Introducing Teddy will be published globally through Bloomsbury next week after making worldwide waves. “It’s been a real whirlwind, sometimes I cant really believe that it’s all happened,” said the Pakenham mum who is expecting another baby soon with her wife.

Yep, let’s work overtime to convince innocent little children that there is no such thing as male and female, and that they can be whatever they want. Let’s indoctrinate them from the youngest age to ignore everything about biology and reality. Let’s just treat them as guinea pigs in the adult culture wars.

And never mind all the harm this does to children. Never mind what experts like Paul McHugh are saying about all this. I have quoted him a number of times before. His qualifications here are second to none. As he writes:

For forty years as the University Distinguished Service Professor of Psychiatry at Johns Hopkins Medical School—twenty-six of which were also spent as Psychiatrist in Chief of Johns Hopkins Hospital—I’ve been studying people who claim to be transgender. Over that time, I’ve watched the phenomenon change and expand in remarkable ways.

He looks at the issue carefully and concludes his important article this way:

The most thorough follow-up of sex-reassigned people—extending over thirty years and conducted in Sweden, where the culture is strongly supportive of the transgendered—documents their lifelong mental unrest. Ten to fifteen years after surgical reassignment, the suicide rate of those who had undergone sex-reassignment surgery rose to twenty times that of comparable peers.
In fact, gender dysphoria—the official psychiatric term for feeling oneself to be of the opposite sex—belongs in the family of similarly disordered assumptions about the body, such as anorexia nervosa and body dysmorphic disorder. Its treatment should not be directed at the body as with surgery and hormones any more than one treats obesity-fearing anorexic patients with liposuction. The treatment should strive to correct the false, problematic nature of the assumption and to resolve the psychosocial conflicts provoking it. With youngsters, this is best done in family therapy.
The larger issue is the meme itself. The idea that one’s sex is fluid and a matter open to choice runs unquestioned through our culture and is reflected everywhere in the media, the theater, the classroom, and in many medical clinics. It has taken on cult-like features: its own special lingo, internet chat rooms providing slick answers to new recruits, and clubs for easy access to dresses and styles supporting the sex change. It is doing much damage to families, adolescents, and children and should be confronted as an opinion without biological foundation wherever it emerges.

And yet here we have adults actively pushing our poor children into this disordered and dangerous path. Shame on them. Jesus said it would be better if such people had large millstones hung on their necks and they were cast into the sea. That is how strongly Jesus felt about the diabolical attacks on our children.

And we should feel exactly the same way.

Transgenderism: A Pathogenic Meme

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Could children today benefit from a smack?

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A South Australian judge has ruled that smacking a child does not make you a criminal.

This landmark ruling has prompted an interesting discussion about whether children today could benefit from this traditional discipline.

Supreme Court Justice David Peek overturned a man convicted of aggravated assault for smacking his 12-year-old child on the thigh. The judge found that disciplining a child does not “transform” a parent into a criminal.

A smack left the child with redness but no bruises. “Some temporary pain and discomfort by the child will not transform a parent attempting to correct a child into a person committing a criminal offence”, Justice Peek said.

Supreme Court Justice David Peek

“Indeed, the very suffering of temporary emotion may be calculated to impress the child and correct the behaviour, just as much as the accompanying physical discomfort”, he added.

Whilst there are some modern parenting experts who say that smacking a child is wrong, Justice Peek found that a disciplinary action is often required.

“Some level of pain is permissible, and in the present case there was little… The mere existence of red marks caused by the punishment does not prove unreasonable correction”, he ruled.

This judgement has been welcomed by most families online. “I have the right to raise and discipline my kids how I think is best, we threaten smacking and mostly that’s enough”, mother Natalie Paradowski wrote on Facebook.

“If others choose not to then that’s their kid and their business, but don’t try to control me and our family because you think differently”, she added.

Others agreed that a smack on the bottom is sometimes what modern children need. “A smack reminds them that there’s boundaries in what they choose to do, consequences for their actions”, Leanne Butler said on Facebook.

4cminews welcomes your thoughts on this polarising topic.

Do you think that some children today need a smack? Do you discipline your grandchildren using a different method? Or do you think smacking is wrong?

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March 22, 2016 | Starts at Sixty Writers | Source: "Let’s talk: Could children today benefit from a smack?"

In Jerusalem’s Kidron Valley, a warning to disobedient children

Meme: Israel and Absalom

Absalom rebelled against his father King David and was run through with a javelin. Still, his tomb is by far by the most magnificent structure on this walk beneath the Mount of Olives

The tomb of Pharaoh's daughter, Kidron Valley, Jerusalem (Shmuel Bar-Am)

In 1952, a unique 2,000-year-old copper scroll was discovered deep inside a cave near the Dead Sea. When British scholar John Marco Allegro translated the scroll a few years later, he was astonished to learn that over 100 tons of gold and silver treasures from the Second Temple had been hidden in dozens of different locations. One such location, he believed, was the area surrounding the alleged Tomb of the prophet Zechariah in the Kidron Valley beneath Jerusalem’s Mount of Olives.

A few years later, Allegro led an expedition to the Kidron Valley – at the time under Jordanian control – in an attempt to recover hidden treasure. Financing the expedition was no problem, for it was to take place under the auspices of Britain’s Daily Mail tabloid newspaper and Jordan provided workers and transportation. There was just one hitch: dozens of Jews were buried around the tomb. The problem was solved when the Kingdom of Jordan granted Allegro permission to clear away the graves.

While he didn’t uncover even a single treasure, Allegro did expose a cave beneath the monument to Zechariah. Steps leading to and from the cave led archaeologists Boaz Zissu and Avraham Tendler later to surmise that the cave was actually a crypt — apparently from a church that early Christians had constructed next to Zechariah’s Tomb.

Excited by the story of Allegro’s adventure, we decided to take an afternoon walk in the Kidron Valley. We were accompanied by tour guide Danny Herman (aka Danny the Digger), whose expertise as an archaeologist imparted an extra added dimension to our jaunt.

We began at an observation point just across the road from the Old City’s eastern wall. From here we had a wonderful view of the ancient tombs and the glittering Church of St. Mary Magdalene, towering above the valley.

Below us and to the right, at the end of a row of houses in the Silwan neighborhood, stood a cube-shaped one-story building that, at one time, was undoubtedly topped by a pyramid. Legend has it that this is the tomb of Pharaoh’s daughter, the only one of King Solomon’s many wives that rated a specific mention in the Bible. Maybe she received this special treatment because she brought the Canaanite city of Gezer with her as her dowry.

Zechariah’s tomb, and possible crypt, Kidron Valley, Jerusalem (Shmuel Bar-Am)

We began at an observation point just across the road from the Old City’s eastern wall. From here we had a wonderful view of the ancient tombs and the glittering Church of St. Mary Magdalene, towering above the valley.

Below us and to the right, at the end of a row of houses in the Silwan neighborhood, stood a cube-shaped one-story building that, at one time, was undoubtedly topped by a pyramid. Legend has it that this is the tomb of Pharaoh’s daughter, the only one of King Solomon’s many wives that rated a specific mention in the Bible. Maybe she received this special treatment because she brought the Canaanite city of Gezer with her as her dowry.

The tomb of Pharaoh’s daughter, Kidron Valley, Jerusalem (Shmuel Bar-Am)

We then descended steps to Absalom’s Tomb, by far the most magnificent structure in the Kidron Valley. A lofty 22 meters in height whose bottom portion was hewn out of the rock, it is completely separate from the slope behind it. Semi columns and capitals decorate the massive lower part of the monument, which is distinguished by a round top ending in a long, thin point.

The Bible tells us that during his lifetime Absalom, King David’s third son, “had taken a pillar and erected it in the King’s Valley as a monument to himself… He named the pillar after himself, and it is called Absalom’s Monument to this day.” [2 Samuel 18:18]. Despite that fact that the shrine dates back to the end of the Second Temple period — nearly a millennia after Absalom rebelled against his father and was run through with a javelin by the King’s captain – tradition places that monument here, identifying the Kidron Valley with the King’s Valley.

Detail from Absalom’s Tomb, Kidron Valley, Jerusalem (Shmuel Bar-Am)

In earlier centuries, passersby of all religions would throw stones at Absalom’s mammoth structure. Indeed Muslims, who revere King David, almost covered it with rocks. It is said that Jewish parents would bring disobedient offspring to the almost hidden monument, point out the stones, and warn them that “this is what happens to children who behave badly to their fathers.”

Iron bars block the entrance to a structure on one side of Absalom’s Tomb. Uncovered in 1924, and thought by some to be the tomb of 9th-century B.C.E. King Jehoshaphat, it contains several chambers and a splendidly ornamental lintel.

Entrance to possible tomb of King Jehoshaphat, Kidron Valley, Jerusalem (Shmuel Bar-Am)

The prophet Zechariah’s Tomb on the other side of Absalom’s Tomb is the only pyramid-topped structure in the valley. Herman pointed out that unlike Absalom’s Tomb, all of Zechariah’s Tomb was carved out of the slope’s rock face and yet is completely detached from the mountainside.

Over 10 meters high, it dates, like Absalom’s Pillar, to the Second Temple period with a lovely façade covered by ionic pillars. Only the front is carefully chiseled: whoever erected this shrine didn’t find it worthwhile to go to the trouble of continuing the beautiful work on its back and sides.

Zechariah’s Tomb, with the Hezir complex to the left, Kidron Valley, Jerusalem (Shmuel Bar-Am)

Jews so revered Zechariah that over the centuries they asked to be buried as close as possible to his grave. At one time the Jews of Jerusalem offered eulogies here and would come to Zechariah’s Tomb to mourn the destruction of the Temple on the ninth day of the Hebrew month of Av.

One year Jerusalem suffered from a terrible drought. Legend has it that the city’s Arabs prayed to Allah, but rain didn’t fall. They then sent a delegation to Jerusalem’s Jewish inhabitants, warning them that if they couldn’t make it rain, they would be in deep, deep trouble. According to this oft-repeated story, the Jews immediately declared a fast and on its third day made a pilgrimage to the tomb of Zechariah. Throwing themselves upon the ground next to the tomb they prayed, then walked around it seven times while singing psalms. By evening the sky was black. Heavy rain, accompanied by thunder and lightning, fell on the Holy City. The Jews were saved, the city’s cisterns filled with water, and the sanctity of Zechariah’s Tomb was reaffirmed.

Behind the shrine, graffiti was scratched on the walls by family members of Jews who were buried next to Zechariah’s Tomb but whose graves were lost when Allegro had them cleared away.

But two tombstones were recently restored and lie there in state.

They belong to Avraham Shlomo Zalman and his wife, grandparents to pioneer Moshe Yoel Solomon who founded the Nahalat Shiva neighborhood and great grandparents to Haim Solomon, co-founder of the flourishing Teva pharmaceutical company.

Shlomo Zalman, who was prominently involved in the construction of the 19th-century Hurva Synagogue, was murdered in 1851 by an Arab. He is often called Israel’s first victim of Arab terror.

The death of Absalom, hanging from a tree by his hair. 14th-century German miniature (Wikipedia)

Only a few meters from Zechariah’s Tomb, a gate leads into a large burial complex featuring several interior chambers. A barely legible ancient Hebrew inscription, found on the exterior of the complex, relates that the six sons of the priestly Hezir family are buried within. And not just any priestly family, says Herman: one of the Dead Sea Scrolls mentions that the Hezirs operated the Temple on Yom Kippur.

A close look at the façade of the burial complex reveals a Greek design called “Distylos in antis”: two columns between two walls. Herman explained that it was such a popular architectural motif at the time, even the Jewish Temple Façade incorporated its motif.

Looking down into the Kidron Valley, Jerusalem (Shmuel Bar-Am)
February 6, 2016 | By Aviva and Shmuel Bar-am | "In Jerusalem’s Kidron Valley, a warning to disobedient children"

ACT TODAY: A message to MP’s or Senators “Marriage Definition” traditional definition of marriage

A message to MP’s or Senators “Marriage Definition”

ACT TODAY: Can we encourage you to print it off, (see PDF below) and call in at your Federal MP or Senator’s office and drop it in to them as soon as possible.  Just go unannounced to the office, and tell the receptionist that you would like to drop this document in for the MP to read.  Make sure you leave your name and address and a contact phone number and email address so he can respond. 

ACT TODAY: Write a Letter to Australian MP’s or Senators re: Proposed Marriage Definition vs. Traditional definition of marriage HOW TO WRITE


Original Source: Open Email from Peter Abetz (Member of the Western Australian Legislative Assembly) 13 June 2015

Thirty-eight of Australia’s Religious Leaders Call on PM and Parliament to Uphold True Meaning of Marriage

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Thirty-eight of Australia’s religious leaders, representing major religious traditions and a broad diversity of faiths and cultures, have written a public letter to the Prime Minister, Tony Abbott, urging him to resist attempts in Federal Parliament to redefine the meaning of marriage.

“As leaders of Australia’s major religions we write to express the grave concerns that we, and those who share our various faiths, share regarding Bills that have or will be introduced into the Federal Parliament to change the definition of marriage in Australian law,” the statement said.

The definition of marriage enshrined in the Commonwealth Marriage Act 1961

“the union of a man and a woman, to the exclusion of all others, voluntarily entered into for life” – reflects a truth deeply embedded across diverse communities, faiths and cultures.”

The 38 signatories to the letter include the Catholic and Anglican Archbishops of Sydney, a bishop of the Lutheran Church, bishops from various Eastern and Orthodox Churches, Christian pastors representing major Protestant denominations, senior rabbis from the Jewish community and leaders from both the Sunni and Shia Islamic communities.

While suffering and injustice faced by people with same-sex attraction was to be “deplored”, “this does not require the further deconstruction of marriage as traditionally understood”, the leaders said.

The religious leaders pointed out that Australia’s definition of marriage as a union of a man and a woman is shared by the vast majority of nations and cultures, who represent over 91 per cent of the global population.

They emphasised the need to uphold traditional marriage for the good of children: “as a couple, two persons of the same sex are not able to provide a child with the experience of both mothering and fathering.

Only the institution of marriage between a man and a woman has this inherent capacity to provide children with both of these relationships that are so foundational to our human identity and development.”

The statement pointed out that redefining marriage would have consequences for everyone:

“In overseas jurisdictions where the definition of marriage has been changed, the public manifestation of this belief has resulted in vilification and legal punishment of individuals and institutions. This violates not only freedom of religion, but also the rights of conscience, belief and association, and the right of parents to educate their children according to their own beliefs.”

Original Source: eNews Wedneday 10th June 2015 NACL NATIONAL ALLIANCE OF CHRISTIAN LEADERS

The Rewards of Confrontation & it takes two to tango.

do not reject the Lord’s discipline…‘ Proverbs 3:11 NCV

The Bible says, ‘Do not reject the Lord’s discipline, and don’t get angry when He corrects you. The Lord corrects those He loves, just as parents correct the child they delight in‘ (Proverbs 3:11-12 NCV).

Because God loves you, when He sees things in your life that could potentially damage you and other people, He deals with them.

Paul writes, ‘Therefore consider the goodness and severity of God…‘ (Romans 11:22 NKJV).

God will deal with you gently, but if you don’t listen He may have to deal with you severely. That’s because He has too much invested in you to let you fail.

Not only does God confront us, He expects us to confront one another when we’re in the wrong.

Paul stood up to Peter, his fellow leader, in front of Jewish and Gentile believers because the issue was important to their mission’s success (Gal 2:14).

Healthy confrontation results in six things:

(1) Clarification. You get a better understanding of the person and what happened.

(2) Change. Hopefully improvement will come from it – and the improvement may be in you!

(3) An improved relationship. Handled correctly, confrontation will deepen your relationship with the other person.

(4) Purity. As word gets out, the organisation will be purified and sobered.

(5) Respect. People will appreciate and respect your leadership even more.

(6) Security. They’ll feel safe knowing that you’re strong enough to take a stand when it counts. People want a leader who says, ‘When there’s a problem I’ll deal with it directly, promptly and respectfully. I’ll help correct the situation and get us back on track.’

Soul Food: Judges 16:1-19:15; Matt 13:1-9; Ps 45; Pro 13:13-16

Written by Bob & Debby Gass

Monday, 25 May 2015

For what its worth words from the Editor:


by the Editor of 4cm:

ALWAYS KEEP IN MIND it takes two to tango.

The results of confronting wrong depends one two parties not one.

How the confront-er carries out the confrontation does have influence.

However does not finally determine the outcomes!

The confronted, will finally shape the outcomes by their responses.

We need to remember the confrontation is because of things being done wrong. The purpose of the confrontation is not to negotiate what wrong and right is; the purpose of the confrontation is to bring a cessation of wrong behaviour from the perpetrator.

The  perpetrator may actually choose to stand their ground and claim wrong is right, and at that point one is wasting their breath attempting to make reason with the person; just bow out with a firm but non abusive summary of your position and remove yourself from the contact.

You will mostly find and successive attempts to repair the breach will only widen the cassim between the parties as basically we have two worlds of opinion which will never run parallel in the same world.

In a perfect world the pieces of the puzzle would be put together however we just do not live yet in a perfect world nor are there any perfect people you and I included.

Romans 12:18 English Standard Version (ESV)

18 If possible, so far as it depends on you, live peaceably with all.

Praying for the Men in Your Life

by Sharon Jaynes 
 Today’s Truth: For our struggle is not against flesh and blood, but against the rulers, against the authorities, against the powers of this dark world and against the spiritual forces of evil in the heavenly realms” (Ephesians 6:12 NIV).

Friend to Friend

Praying for Your Husband Cover FinalOf all the roles and responsibilities that God has given us as women, the position of a prayer warrior or intercessor is perhaps the greatest of all. An intercessor is a person who intervenes or prays for another person. It was derived from the Greek word enteuxis, which means to go before a king with a petition or plea on behalf of someone else. In essence, it means the same thing today. We go before the King of kings with a petition or plea on someone’s behalf. What we accomplish on our knees in the invisible realm will ultimately affect what we see in the visible realm.

As a wife, there is no other person who is more called or more qualified to pray for your man than you. As a mother, there is no other person more qualified to pray for your children than you.

In the Bible, God describes the marriage of a man and a woman as a visual example of the spiritual union between Jesus Christ and the Church (all Christians). Believers are called “the bride of Christ” (Revelation 19:7). A marriage is a walking, talking, earthly example of the heavenly relationship between God’s Son and those who believe on His name. God instructs men, “Love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave Himself up for her” (Ephesians 5:25).

There is someone who wants to destroy that living example, and his name is Satan. Jesus said, “The thief [Satan] comes only to steal, and kill, and destroy” (John 10:10). He desires to destroy the God-ordained and designed institution of marriage. He began with Adam and Eve in the Garden of Eden and continues his destructive tactics even today. Satan is not very creative, but he’s very effective, and he uses the same temptations and tactics today that he used in the first marriage on earth. Satan has proclaimed an all-out assault on the family and he begins at the top—with the husband and wife.

If you are married, I encourage you to pray for your marriage. If you are single, I encourage you to pray for the marriages of your friends and family.

So many times we fail to see the real enemy. The writer of Ephesians explains, “For our struggle is not against flesh and blood, but against the rulers, against the authorities, against the powers of this dark world and against the spiritual forces of evil in the heavenly realms” (Ephesians 6:12).

When having a conflict with my husband, I need to stop, take a deep breath, and think…who is the real enemy here?

There is a spiritual battle raging all around us that we can’t even see, but is very real. It is the greater reality. It is a battle that is not to be feared, but one that is to be recognized and fought in the only place where it can be won—in prayer.

Below are Scriptures that I use to pray for my husband and my son. I encourage you to pray them over the men in your life.

Let’s Pray:

Husband: Dear Lord, I pray for ** Name ** from head to toe.

» Mind That he will have the mind of Christ and think as the Holy Spirit would lead him and not the flesh. 1 Corinthians 2:16
» Eyes That You will keep his eyes from temptation and that he will turn his eyes from sin. Matthew 6:13 Mark 9:47
» Ears That he will hear Your still small voice instructing him. 1 Kings 19:12 Psalm 32:8
» Mouth That his words will be pleasing to You. Psalm 19:14
» Neck That the decisions that turn his head will honor You in all regards.  Psalm 25:12
» Shoulders That he will not carry burdens and worries on his own shoulders, but trust that nothing is too hard for You. Genesis 18:14 Jeremiah 32:17
» Heart That he will love and trust You with his whole heart. Deuteronomy 6:5 Proverbs 3:5
» Back That You will protect him from harm in the spiritual and physical realms. Deuteronomy 23:14 NLT
» Arms That You will be his strength. Psalm 73:26
» Hands That he will enjoy the work of his hands and see it as a gift from You. Ecclesiastes 3:13 Ecclesiastes 5:19
» Ring Finger (for my husband) – That he will love me as Christ loved the Church. Ephesians 5:25-27
» Side That he will have godly friends who hold him up and spur him on. Proverbs 27:17 Proverbs 12:26
» Sexuality (for my husband) That he will not be tempted by sexual sin, but satisfied and fulfilled in our marriage bed.  Matthew 6:13 Proverbs 5:18-19

Son: Dear Lord, I pray for ** Name **

» Sexuality That he will not be tempted by sexual sin. Matthew 6:13
» Legs That he will stand firm on the truth, knowing that if he does not stand firm in his faith, he will not stand at all. Psalm 62:6 Isaiah 7:9
» Knees That he will humble himself before You and be strong, courageous, and careful to do everything written in Your Word so that he will be prosperous and successful. James 4:10 Joshua 1:8-9
» Feet That You will order his steps, and that he will walk in Your truth. Proverbs 4:25  Psalm 26:3

Now It’s Your Turn

Consider asking your husband, son, nephew, or male friend for some specific ways that you can pray for him today.

Look up each of the Scripture references above and make the prayers specific to the needs of the person you are praying for.

Find one friend with whom you can pray for your marriage. Commit to pray for each other’s marriage on a regular basis.

by Sharon Jaynes | February 11, 2015 | Original Source: "Praying for the Men in Your Life - Girlfriends in God"